These Vintage Roosters Make Me Miss My Mother in Law
Country Decor
French Country
Farm Country
These Chickens belong to my mother-in-law!
I believe they belonged to her Mother
These are a sweet treasure to me!
She has been gone for a long time!
She was a very special and dear person to me!
I realized that over the years how blessed I was to have
Such a wonderful Mother-in-law!
So I want to title this post-
Don't Be A Toxic Mother-in-Law...
I believe when I was first married over 40 years ago;
I had no idea on how she treated me would impact the rest
Of my relationships!
Think of this family dynamics this way;
You both love the same man.
He now needs to cleave to his wife;
She was kind to me and didn't judge me,
She was patient with me,
She was not critical!
She taught me to crochet!
She made me think I was the best cook ever!
(I wasn't) :)
Here are a few things I remember she did that were huge!
She didn't act jealous of me as her son showed me so much attention!
She didn't choose sides when we were having difficulties!
She made a big deal about my Birthday!
She spoke well about my own Mother!
She honored my efforts at being a wife and a mother!
She walked with me in difficult days, Not over me!
~Don't Be A Toxic Mother-in-Law~
Seek to be a Blessing
Encourage Them
You can impact her life in many ways,
With being kind and loving and helpful!
We can teach someone without any words!
Don't repeat what she might tell you!
Pray for them daily!
If she compliments something she has made for her son;
Ask her if she might like to have the recipe.
Just because she married your son, this is not a competition!!
Realize it takes time to develop housekeeping skills!
Remember how insecure you were
When you were but a young bride?
Respect goes a long way, even if you would do things differently!
Make your daughter-in - law feel like family.
Not an outsider!
Don't force your son to choose between the two of you!!!!
Because he will take his bride's side, as he should!!!
Compliment her good qualities!
Trust me she has some!!!!
Never speak negatively about her!
Learn quickly to not do this, as it will cause great damage!
Try to only give advice if she is asking about something!
Be available!
Remember to call and ask if it's okay to come visit.
And maybe once in awhile bring a small little gift just for her!
It is never too late to become a great Mother-in-Law!!
She is the only reason I learned to be a good mother-in-law!
She was teaching me by her actions and responses.
What a blessing to your son to choose to love
The very one he has chosen to be his wife!
~Blessings To Each Every Every Mother and
Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-laws~
Roxy
XOXO
Here is the link to my Blog Post on
Rose Fountain Of Blessings
