Boundaries...
Why are so many people powerless to set boundaries?
Most the time is because we do not want to hurt another person's feelings;
Knowing your own personal boundaries will keep you healthy!
Knowing what is my stuff gives me freedom!
There are things and people that will try to diminish you!
Learning to be able to tell others what "YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE"
This is key...
Have you ever heard someone say, well they never told me that!
People cannot read your mind!
You also can not assume!
We must learn are own comfort and safe zones.
Being able to say I am not comfortable with this;
Behavior
Rudeness
Manipulation
Knowing your boundaries helps you,
And in the long run, it helps others!
We are not responsible for other adults boundaries.
But if you do not take care of your own perimeters
You will open the gate to wolves!
No one can do certain things for us!
People will try to lay all their burdens upon you!
We are all called to carry our own burdens!
So many are just plain irresponsible, and then we are back in a corner,
Only if you will say enough and NO to certain things!
Look, it's your home and your life;
Believe that you have a right and an obligation to keep certain things out!
The reason a good fence has a gate you can open is so you can let the
GOOD IN
And keep the
BAD OUT
If you don't, you might as well put a revolving door on the front of your home.
God limits what He will allow in His Yard!
He guards His house and will not allow evil to live there.
I learned many years ago to set boundaries!
We do not have to be a door mat for everything that comes along.
Our Words will have to be our defense for setting boundaries!
NO...
That behavior is not acceptable
Drinking
Smoking (cigarettes, pot)
Foul language
Uncomfortable Touch
We can say these things with a voice of ownership!
Mean what you say
Passivity will never set boundaries, but will keep you stuck and you will become resentful!
I had a problem years ago with someone who always brought their dog
Huge dog and he always would pee on my floors!
I finally told them nicely that it was not going to work for me any more.
Guess what, they never came back;
They were mad at me forever!
Yes, it was sad, but that was the beginning of finding my voice and knowing
My limits and my boundaries...
Being honest or truthful will hurt someone!
But the truth will set you free.
Preserving our own soul from wolves that desire to kill us!
Being aggressive for the right to keep our homes safe and our hearts healthy!
Stress and saying yes to everything makes one weak and vulnerable!
Take heart, we are more than overcomers!
I am thankful that in this season of my life I have very few people who
Try to manipulate or diminish me.
I have really felt the stress of over the years during the holiday season;
But I think we can very nicely say and speak what is on our minds.
And what is acceptable in our lives and homes
Our boundaries can show grace and discipline and bring
Peace to our hearts and Glory to God!
So Please Learn about how to set boundaries,
Teach others how to set them!
There is no reason to be manipulated by others!
We also can see this done through peer pressure;
We can accomplish setting boundaries, while still being kind and gracious!
As Always...
Living From Glory To glory
Hugs, Roxy
