Do You Make Time For Your Husband...

Making Time For Your Husband...

Making time for the things that matter!

We are all going to be in a place of accounting for our days and time!!

If I could say just one last thing on this Blog;

What would it be?

I do hope my posts have always led you to ponder the Great I Am...

But, I think I might have to choose how we treat our Husbands!

So Many times we get so busy as Mothers and Grandmothers,

We may forget our Husbands Needs and Wants...

If we would only just ask him, Hey Honey, can I get you anything?

Or can I do anything for you today?

Or to just notice how he is feeling or doing!

It's all about the ME

We make jokes at their expense, we may even ignore them at times.

Our needs and wants are front and center!

I don't feel in the mood!

I am tired

I am ...

No you're not "I Am"

Look, I want you to know that laying down your wants and needs are not easy.

When we serve him it is like giving a cold drink in the Fathers name!

I want to remind you that we must wash the feet of those in our own lives first!

Being at every prayer meeting and lunch social is fun;

But at what expense?

Women work hard and wear many hats;

But you are the only one who should meet his needs!!

Sometimes I will sit in the same room just being near him;

But I still sew or crochet, or read or write about something.

I do many things just for myself!!

Taking care of myself assures me that I will be happy and whole to be able

to love and meet my dear Husbands needs!

Many women have lost their husbands;

What might their advice be to us?

Let me remind you one day all the children grow up and should leave home!

Why not start now enjoying the time you have together??

I realize some of the marriages out there are not heaven sent!

But if you do what you can and love and laugh and live well, I believe

You will at least in your heart you will hear!

~Well done, good and faithful servant~

Is there a thought you might have about how you try to meet his needs?

We all love good ideas that are simple yet meet the needs.

Reminding myself of this very thing today!!

As always, Grace upon Grace

Thankful for the Goodness of the Lord...

Living From Glory To Glory

Listen To Your Husbands Warnings Concerning Others...

Flowers are always blooming somewhere!!

Our brothers and sisters in Christ can be anywhere in the process of blooming!

Growing and blooming and just looking pretty is what flowers do.

Flowers are oh so glorious!

God has made so many different varieties and have placed them together;

To make one glorious garden...

Yet these gardens have flowers that just plain stink!

This time of year we have this flower that is all over the place;

We call it stink weed and it is a real flower;

But yet it really stinks!!

Sometimes we just can perceive fall is in the air because of this very stink flower.

But I think of this flower not as a flower per say;

But rather a weed.

I have learned a few things about perception;

I always laugh when I read that little saying on my side mirrors of my car.

Objects may be closer than they appear...

After a few more evenings that dip in temperatures everything

will be turning brown and crunchy.

So the moral of this story is going to be about:

Let's not be deceived, by looks!!

We all have been taken back, when we either smelled something

That looked delicious and found it to be unpleasant.

We have all met someone or knew of someone that we thought was

So very special and desired to be friends with them.

To only find out later they were not at all as they appeared to be!

This is where I want to teach a little piece of wisdom that I have learned!

Remember back at the first time when you met someone that you

just thought they were really special, and your very own Husband

Said you know, I am not too sure about the girl;

There is just something about her that seems wrong!

WARNING

But at first you didn't heed his advice;

Look back...

He was right all along!

I want to say this, that our husbands want us to be protected!

So if and when he gives you this check, tell him this;

You know, honey, I will be watchful and keep my guard up.

My Hubby has been right about every person that has come into my life;

 That they were not going to be who I had preconceived them to be!

But now I listen and I watch and wait!

As a keeper of the home we must guide it daily;

And that requires us to be wise in who you share your

Lives and personal information with!!

Better to be slow and cautious...

Building friendships will cost you something!

Be wise!!

Blessings To Y'all

Roxy

Living From Glory To Glory

Always Being A Bride To Your Spouse...

How A Bride Looks And Feels...

When a woman prepares for her wedding day it is a 

 day that comes with much contemplation and preparation!

But sometimes a woman can put forth more effort on her wedding day itself,
 yet completely miss the part of till death do us part!

When we marry it must be for all the right reasons;

May we allow the love we once felt in our marriages;
Continue to prosper and not grow cold!

Too many women get so distracted and busy with just life,
They can stop putting forth any effort to foster loving words
and actions and being aloof.

When you live with your spouse for a long time
 you can either grow apart or closer together!

The choice is really yours!

May I encourage you to make each day a bit special!

You can prepare for either a special evening together.
Or an early morning alone time!

Remind yourself that being a bride is not just a one day occasion...

It is learning to be a bride daily!

Looking beautiful...
Feeling beautiful
Radiant
A Gentle and quiet spirit
(I am sure you were not bossing him while walking down the aisle)
Being funny and witty!
Having an expectation of what is coming (alluring to him)
Smiles and a bit giddy...
Love is a powerful thing!


A wife must even see the side of a learning to be quiet!
(Not always talking)

The Old saying about the way to a mans heart is through his stomach;
Well, I can tell you this:
When a man is well loved and fed, he can so much easier enjoy his bride!

Keeping the peace and keeping the home fires burning...
In the kitchen and in the bedroom (smiles)

Being A Cheerleader For Your Own Husband...

Being A Cheerleader For The Home Team

I wanted to share something that I believe was a teaching tool for me!

When I look at my husband and how hard he works!

At Home and at his job!

I had this thought of how I could cheer him on in his life!

( Now, for the record, I do not have a good visual picture of a cheerleader in my head)

Scantly dressed and kicking her heels up, Ra Ra and all that!

But, rather a voice behind him saying things like!

Wow, you did a great job honey

I can't believe you got that all done, you work so diligently

You're so smart to be able to figure that out!

Oh your such a good provider!

(He provides you with protection and security)
And I do not mean he makes a ton of money,
But rather someone who cares about you!

I will give you a little something to think about;

If you are not willing to be your husbands cheerleader;
I can guarantee there is a woman who will be!!

Having someone to notice what you have done is universal.

Look, I can't fix all your problems,
But I can give you some advice as how doing it yourself
in a way that brings him closer to YOU!

There are two teams:
The Home Team
&
The Worlds Team

You want your Husband to get all his Rah- Rah's from HOME!

Firstly, he picked you to be on his Team
(He married YOU)

So be a good Team Cheerleader!

------  ----- He's my man,

Your Man, needs You in his court!
Fight and cheer for him!

So, get your pom- pom's out and start cheering him on!!

(You can buy yourself a set of these at the Dollar Tree)

Were you ever a cheerleader?
Do you want your husband watching cheerleader at sports events?
Get my point?

How Lifting Up Your Husband In Prayer Is A Bit Like The Dew In The Morning...

Times of Refreshment...

Learning to lean on what's true, when you feel the push back to life...

This morning was filled with early morning fog;
And when you live in these parts its not something we have often.

But I can see that when we are moving almost in a fog;
Mentally or physically it feels heavy.

But as I went outside to take care of my chores, I did
raise my arms and thank the Lord!

The trees and the fields of grass and wild flowers need this!
I always think that if I will just take my thoughts and feelings
captive and hold on to what is really true, I can plod on!

And we are told in His word to do just that
 PLOD ON...

So when I think of how I can readjust my focus and embrace
each day as a perfect gift from my Father!

I had an idea in my head this morning of how us
Women have so many emotions and feelings,
But have you stopped to give much thought to what you're
Husband may be experiencing?

They carry way more than we may realize at times!
Just because they don't express it or share it with us.
Does not mean they are dealing with it all!

Take this day and lift up YOUR Husband...

There is something else that I was thinking
~I want a new purse~
And I need a new purse like I need a hole in the head;
But, it is something I can do that brightens up my new season!
Who wants to carry a black or brown purse in spring and summer?

So who of you also enjoy a new purse?
It's A Girl Thang...

What I Really Think, You Little Rascal...

What I really Think...

Enjoying this season of my life as I have enjoyed all the others!

Sometimes we can miss the simple joys of our everyday lives;

By always thinking that there is something better!

Or living in the past because we thought it was so great!

Come up with some new plans and ideas to enjoy this NOW season.

Be funny and make someone smile!

Be a better wife!!

Learn a new skill!

A good and happy life is something we can create...

The power to love and not give up is what a good woman should do!

Are you ready to give up?

Well, wait three days...

We can all recall a time when you might have been down or weary;

But each time we have overcome those feelings!

I am a lady that desires to enjoy my days!

Cooking and cleaning become a joy!

Loving my husband is a God honoring mission!

We cannot become a prisoner in our own homes just because,

The world has gone crazy!

Stretch your imagination...

Clean out the old of what is no longer useful!

Keep what brings you joy!

Purpose in your heart to bring God honor in your days!

Enjoy the lonely days

Enjoy the quiet

Enjoy this season!

We must teach the younger women how to

Love their children and their husbands;

But we must also teach them how to live a healthy life once

They have done this great calling!

What I really think!

The Best Is Yet To Come...

Blessings, Living From Glory To Glory

I Never Promised You A Rose Garden, How To Disagree And NOT Fight...

 

I Never Promised You A Rose Garden

Marriage and a bed of Roses...

A Good marriage takes work!

Anything worthwhile takes work!

If you want a bed of roses to lie down in, then you must start

with some very strong manure!

Be careful of how fresh it is because it will burn your seedlings or

kill a new plant!

I realize it is not really time to plant roses, but it is time to

think about what state your marriage soil is in!

I sometimes get irritated when we think love is something that just happens.

It may just be infatuation or just plain lust of the flesh.

Real love and marriage has many trials and errors.

Do you know why God tells us to have an older woman

in our lives that has the experience of being a Godly wife?

BECAUSE we have to LEARN how to Love our husbands!

We are all going to have fights once in awhile,

And when you first get married it is a bit rough for many couples.

Fighting Fair

Conflicts will happen in every marriage----

Women are notorious for wanting to have the last word.

[Love] is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,

it keeps no records of wrongs.

1 Corinthians 13:5

How To Disagree and NOT Fight

Answer this Question...

Can you get angry without getting destructive?

(Your words, your attitude, your actions)?

Stick to the problem or point

Don't drag the past records of wrongs into your disagreement.

Allow your spouse to respond and make your statement

then they can respond back.

(No hands on your hips)

Don't allow your feelings to rule,

But state the facts!

(Men need facts)

Take the first move to ask for forgiveness and make an apology!

Love is not rude...

Lord, give me wisdom to be a Godly wife; and to do the hard work;

So one day we will have the soil prepared for a bed of Roses.

Remember making up is so much better!

Do You have some of your own words of wisdom for dealing
with conflict in your marriage, please share!!

Even in our marriages, we must be;

Living From Glory To Glory

When Was The Last Time You Really Kissed Your Husband...

 

When was the last time you really kissed your husband?

This is just something I was thinking about for the last

few months. And I wanted to share a couple of thoughts on this!

Well, I know we all are giving those quick pecks when we are

leaving or arriving with our spouses!

I get that we can't just stop and make out all the time;

Really, I laugh as I write this because remember when you were 

Newly in love and could not get enough kissing in??

It was romantic and so sweet!

But now we all have been married for years

(Decades)

But it really is in the kiss that sparks a feeling of connection;

Look we are all a bit tired and the days can wear us out!

But what we need in this world is some real passion and

not this Hollywood style love and sex.

I asked my husband this morning what does a kiss from me say to him!

he said that it tells me your thinking about me!

That you love me!

That you want to show me that I matter to you!

That I feel passion towards him!

Why do wives stop kissing their husbands?

Well for one because we get in our heads that it will give them a signal;

That says; Lets __________!

So then we get programmed to not kiss them passionately or with 

at least a spark!!

So we then become the problem...

A kiss filled with some passion or spark or a bit of adventure;

Can be added with the smile or phrase that says later honey!

We may not be a hormone laced kid;

But rather a deep love of affection and physical connection!

Hollywoods warped demonstration of affection.

 And our lives that are way too busy can rob one's romance!

Holding hands and smooching are for mature and young marriages!

Let's not become dried up old prunes!

I remember well this couple that lived into their nineties;

 And this is "their story"

 Every time this couple kissed he would tell her this!

(Oh Honey You Can Do Better Than That!)

And she would giggle and give him another smooch!

I told this story at this dear mans funeral, because his wife went before him.

So the moral of the story is this!

"We are never too old to give our spouses a good kiss"

Be love birds till you die...

As I was writing this post two Doves came and perched on my window!

As if they were saying we are still together and we do things together.

And we still show are affections to each other daily!

Be Two Turtle Doves;

Be A French Hen!

And honor your two gold wedding rings...
"I Do"

So give your Husband the gift of more kissing!

Women Want To Control...

Women Want To CONTROL

This statement might make you angry!

But the truth of the matter, it is the truth...

Hello Ms. Bossy Pants, how does your garden grow?

"Well, it better do what I tell it to do!"

I can write this blog post because I am a woman!
I know that my strong sin nature desires to lead and to control!

Women are known for their strong opinions in most arenas.

Women in most households will run the whole place dominating
Conversations and about who what and where with most other things!

You have all heard the phrase control freak...

Well, when you first start learning to become a biblical woman,
You quickly see the force behind your always wanting to control!
~FEAR~

And I think it is a wonderful character trait,
 To run your household well,and with efficiency!

But in our sin nature our desire is to control our husbands!
This is where we usually have to pray and work out our salvation;
In this area of becoming not dominant, but submissive.

Most men are pretty lenient with how we can have the freedom to
Organize and run our households.

But then we have some troubles knowing when we need to stop;
Controlling and manipulating our husbands.

Sometimes I am not even aware I am doing it, so then the Holy Spirit is gracious
and He helps me see the error in my words or my actions.
(It is usually a bit of both)

I am always learning and I have been married for years,
But I can tell you this dear ladies it is never to late to learn to
become more in line with scripture in our marriages.

I think most of us want to control our Husbands out of fear!
Fear of what our Husbands have done or what they might do!

But when we pray and train ourselves to stop this excessive controlling;
We might just find that the world does not crumble and fall apart.

If we would but learn to control our own thoughts and our words;
Then...
We would become that gentle and quiet one spoken of in scripture.

It does not mean you cannot voice, your heart or opinion!

It is just done with a different attitude and not an expectation of the
Outcome of him to follow your ideas or how you think it should be done!

I spoke therefore you do!
(In your MOMMY voice)

You are not his mommy!
 And he also has to learn to lead his wife and children!
Pray for him and work hard at doing YOUR part.

But if you will not stop FIRST controlling and manipulating him;
He cannot do what he is suppose to do!

We hear this all the time, well if he would just lead then I would submit!
Well girls that is not how it works...
He was created first and we must follow,
He is not to follow us...

Control feels like power to so many of us!
But to serve and to obey is like having a lovely opportunity
to act and be like Christ example to us!


I appreciate your visit to this blog!
I desire to live my life
~From Glory To Glory~

Why We Must Guard Our Husbands Reputation...

 

Guard Your Husbands Reputation...

"The Heart of her husband safely trusts in her,

And he will have no lack of gain."

Why guarding our husband's reputation is a powerful way to help our husbands to trust in us!

So many men are run down by their wives in their words and actions!

When we do these things it gives others an open door to think less of him.

I have even seen it when a Mother talks in a demoralizing way about their father,

and just laugh as it is a big joke.

A reputation can be smeared in an off colored joke or an action

that shows we do not respect or honor them.

We must be very careful to speak only of their better qualities;

to our parents and friend and mostly the children.

We are not to compare our husbands qualities to other men!

Praising our husband's strengths is a gift we can give our husbands!

We also must not be a source of embarrassment to our husbands.

Crude talk or joking

Our manner of dressing

The way we manage our finances

Being where we are suppose to be

(He knows where you are)

We are called to be a treasure to our own husband's!

Can Your Husband safely trust in you?

How The Man Was Created To Lead and To Be Shown Respect...

 

A Man After Gods Own Heart...

A Man needs to be shown respect!
A Man was created to lead and protect!

We are all living in a world today of either not showing respect
Or very little!

Respect, is a very important key element to being a biblical wife.
But we are also missing the bigger picture here!

Men were designed to live in this code!
Respect is like a deep seated need, placed within each man!
When we show respect to them, we actually make a deposit
 that builds integrity,
And a greater sense of worth;

You have heard the phrase the chain of command?
This is used in every branch of civilization...

Well, it is because we cannot all just lead and govern our own way.
We need to be under a form of law and rule!
As we have protection from the very rules God has placed over us!
If we all did just what we wanted to do, we would have chaos!

We need to rethink this concept of respect;
I have heard this statement;
If he wants respect he is going to have to earn it!
But, what we need to do is show respect and then we gain favor.
This applies in marriage, business and the military...
Because this is God's design for his family.

The Word when applied gives us liberty and favor!

But we still must show respect to our husbands and authority;

You Can Learn To Become An Excellent Wife...

When we first got married, I would say I had much to be desired in being

"Called and excellent wife"

Being a wife can be the most glorious place for a woman to become all that her heart desires.

But as we all can attest to is the truth that it require's strength and endurance!

If you were one of those young ladies that had a Mother that was a godly example,

Then you had a head start on many of us.

We never really stop learning the ways that create a truly good marriage.

I think we have a culture that is in place that through their media productions,

we have lost sight of the truth of a wholesome marriage.

We have seen men leave their wives in droves;

Women have left their marriages

We have a problem...

How can we overcome?

We do the next thing that will bring glory to God!

It may just be changing the way we speak to our husbands.

(Our tone shows respect)

We can just stop what we are doing and truly listen to what hey are saying.

(Being a good listener)

We can ask someone to give us some guidance in our marriages.

(Having accountability)

We can read a few good books on the subject of being a good wife.

(Resources are a valuable tool)

Look, becoming an excellent wife is no easy task!

But if you will commit to learning and growing in this high calling,

You will  never regret the rewards, some will be here and now.

But mostly they are heavenly accounts in your name.

God tells us that marriage is His idea...

Every hard day and year

Every horrible fight or little disagreement

You can overcome...

God has given us support and guidance!

There are women out there that have stood the test of time!

God wants our marriages to be healthy and pure!

We have a very tough fight on our hands!

Do you want a good marriage?

Do you believe your marriage could use a refreshing lift?

I have a few books like the one in the photo;

I pull them off the shelf and reread portions of them!

Then I try to implement something that will spark or help me in an area that is lacking!

Take your marriage seriously!

Do something everyday!

I want to thank the Lord for placing those Godly women in my life!

And for the direction of using a few good books to glean from!

Blessings,

Living From Glory To Glory

Husbands Love To Have Their Wives Pamper Them...

Don't Worry, He's A Big Boy He Can Take Care Of Himself...

Really, when I hear that from married women,

Or those who are engaged, it bothers me!

Having a desire for wanting to do things for your husband,

is very attractive to them!

They love to have their wives pamper them!

I am not talking about being their slaves;

But rather a helpmate...

Men enjoy having a nice meal prepared for them!

They enjoy having clean laundry!

They enjoy having someone wait on them after a long day or night working.

Look, my husband is perfectly capable to do most everything,

And that is my point...

I want him to want and need my help,

It is not like a child that is learning to take care of one's self,

I believe we take all the joy and the need out of taking care of them,

By simply expecting them to do everything for themselves!

This applies to stay at home wives;

And it applies to those who work outside the home!!

I will tell you this, as I have been taking the initiative to help

My husband all my married years, he in return helps me.

He knows when we are in the thick of something he will pitch

right in and help get it done.

He knows I have made him my first person in my priority list in my life!

I see being a helper requires a bit of imagination,

As he can have a secretary or a crew under him;

But he has you as his wife...

What can you do just for him that makes his life better??

You already know what you want or need to make your life better;

So give this some thought!

And please do not say that phrase

"Oh, He's a big boy he can take care of himself"

Yes, I am sure he is and you would feel pretty sad if he did not prefer

your help or input, but rather someone else.

It is even wise to train your children to show their Dad, love and honor!

We live in a "ME" culture, and it has overflowed into

Marriage and the helper portion of "I DO"

A Good Marriage Is Really Very Special And Sweet...

And It Is Not Made In Heaven;

But, Rather Worked Out Here On Earth!

What Does The Wedding Cake Represent And Your Wedding Vows...

I am sure there is some great mystery to why we have cake after a wedding;

I haven't googled this or do I care too!

But to me, I think a wedding cake allows us to see that to start

One's life of becoming one flesh through symbolic traditions is a good thing!

Marriages are to be sweet and sturdy and filled with good things.

They should a have a lovely appearance!

A marriage should cover some of the flaws we carried when we were single!

The inside should be filled with substance and not just fluff;

Marriage is hard work, yet it is worth it all!

Did you know most marriage vows have no longer 

included the phrase till death do us part?

Look, I get it, sometimes marriage has not worked for some of you!

But I still think we need to look at marriage with the permanently,

Mindset that God intended!

Why is it that the bride and groom begin their marriage by;

Cutting the cake together?

Well, I think it is because doing life alone is not all the wonderful!

Many have lost their spouse and feel the deep loss of that daily!

I realize that this life is not all one big party!

But we are to start down the path in the right manner!

Marriage vows...

Wedding cake to say we are doing this together!

I think that is why when I have been at a wedding and have witnessed

A newly married bride and groom who shove cake into each others face,

It grieves me!

Give honor and reverence for those lovely traditions that;

Carry weight in showing love and respect!

I think of those that are starving in past history and in a dark time

"When someone who held prestige made the statement to those

who had none or very little;

Let's eat cake"

We are to be blessed and to eat the goodness of this life

and in the bounds of marriage!

It is never too late to start working on a better marriage!

Make your vows come alive again!

Fan the flame of your witness to each other!

Blessings, Roxy

Learning To Adapt To Your Husbands Schedule...

Everyday things...

Before I went to bed last night I wrote out a small list of a few

things that needed to be done!

I have found that a list can help me prioritize things that must be done!

I can get overwhelmed at times so I do not always make up a list;

But when I get behind I can see the wisdom of writing out my chores.

1st on my list was baking a cake;

My Husband will ask me every once in a while to make his work crew a

 Pineapple upside down cake, as they really enjoy this!

Now, It was my most important thing to do today, because

He asked me if I would do it!

I find myself making it a point to ask my Husband if there is anything

he needs me to do more him; as he works long hours.

The second thing on my list to do was baking cookies;

When my Husband goes to work I packed him a lunch;

And we all know how wonderful a fresh baked cookie is in one's lunch!

This was a priority because when he eats one of those cookies,

He will think of me...

Trust me it is the little things like cutting their oranges in half,

Or putting a note in their lunch box, or a piece of chocolate!

Third on my list was cooking up a nice pork roast with sauerkraut;

As this is a dish his mother use to make him...

(He likes the way I cook mine now days)

Then I had to change out my tablecloth and placemats,

And then I swept and mopped the kitchen floor.

Oh, and I had to deep clean our bathroom!

And I still need to peel and cook up some potatoes.

Yet, I feel good about having done these things!

My home looks good and smells wonderful!

And Hubby has a nice treat to share with his crew!

"When you put your Husband needs first this will help to build

And strengthen your marriage"

Some days we just need to get our priorities right for each day is different!

Every day is not the same...

That is why we must learn to adapt to our Husbands life and schedule!

Being flexible is a fine art worth learning...

Help Your Husband...

 

When you become self absorbed in things and self;

And forget to be the helpmate that is needed.

I have seen lately, many relationships that seem strained.

I can't help, but to look at some of these people that we know and love.

But I always really must go back to the basic of a healthy relationship!

Men were created to rule and protect!

But when the one they desire to love and protect, seem aloof or contentious.

This brings a weight that just kills their purpose.

Sometimes it is not the huge battles that break them.

Rather, it can be the accusing tone in your voice.

When they are tired we continue to push them with our words.

Sometimes it is just not meeting the simple needs of good meals,

And rest and a hug...

Men feel the weight, dear ones!

Helping is really very easy and when done with a word of encouragement!

If we really believe God is in control;

Why do we always try to rule and control things?

Spend quality time with your Husband!

Make the choice to truly help them...

(The benefits are huge)

Peace in your heart and home...

The best way to show love to your children of any age;

Is to love their Father!

Our Husbands are the treasure and gift to keep our homes

Safe And Together!

Do you always want to be right

Or

Keep the peace...

As in the picture above, even a sheet of ice can break a stalk;

But the frost can stifle growth and movement!

Be his greatest cheerleader and supporter!

Remember that his job can be so demanding as ours can be also.

But giving love and support is what gives us purpose.

Let This Be A season Of Giving...

How To Embrace Everyday Love In Your Marriage...

Everyday Love

After being  married for many years, it can bring about such a soft and comfortable love.

Some may even call this a boring love;

Not, I

Love in the beginning is young and is exciting, everything seems new.

But really you don't even know one another!

When we are courting or dating we are putting our best foot forward.

We are always seen at our very best...
We have not been tried or pushed out of our comfort zones.
Having conflict and issues in our differences allows us to grow.
One thing my husband and I have said is this;
We can agree to disagree...
We are not cookie cutter people,
We allow each other to have a difference of opinion!
We allow each other to have the space and a portion to speak
(What is in our hearts, without interrupting them)
A good marriage is not a dictatorship...
But rather a team that has to have a good leader!
In our God given roles, it has been given to him to make the last or final decision.
But I am so blessed that he inquires of me as to my thoughts,
An opinion on every major decision in our lives!

Also a good disagreement can even be healthy to clear up little
Irritations that can just start mounting up in our daily lives!
We must always be ready to resolve conflict and work together!
We always try to pull for the best outcome!
I believe God has used a marriage to teach us so many things.

Years of walking side by side, we have experienced many landscapes.
Valleys, and plains and mountains.

We are not wise to run away from the little tougher seasons or just a day or two.

In our walk with Christ it is in the very valleys we run from that we can

Become better acquainted and intimate with Him.

If You have not walked any valleys as yet;
May I tell you this dear ones,

 The valleys will come...

It is in the valleys that we are placed in the shade of the Mountain

The weight of His Glory can be seen in the shadows.

Being in a marriage for a long time is what makes a marriage vow grow
 and presses out the wimpy within us.

What started out as a wrinkle free wedding license surly can become
Wrinkled...
These wrinkles begin to show up on
 our wrinkled brows and our bed sheets,

Our wrinkled tummies from bearing the babies, we held within a once firm tummy.

Slowly you will blend and compliment one another

One day you will become familiar with what his sighs might really mean!
But only if you take the time to really listen...

You will learn that when they are silent
It does not mean that, they are angry or mad at you!
Maybe they have just had a hard day.

Marriage will change you!

But, I give you this bit of advice
 if you will love and forgive and roll into each others side

(Every night and hold each other tight)

You will live to grow comfortable and warm and not critical...

Love has many hues of color;

But it is in the dark of night or in a valley you must trust instinct.

~ keep your eyes on the Son~
Not each others faults;
For you both have many...

Real life has real challenges...

But if you resolve to love your spouse!

God will help you to become comfortable with old fashion love everyday!

May we learn to embrace Everyday Love;

Not what a romance novel might portray it to be!

God has written the greatest romance of all!

He gave it all, He held nothing back,

Why should you?

~Loving is the prize dear ones; even if it is not returned~

Love is truth in action and in words and deeds daily...

Do not become hard hearted dear ladies;

Keep your heart tender

Think the best of him always

Finding his faults will make yours grow!

Do you want to be found irresistible?

Keep loving even if it becomes hard as we are all being molded into His image.