Being A Cheerleader For Your Own Husband...

Being A Cheerleader For The Home Team

I wanted to share something that I believe was a teaching tool for me!

When I look at my husband and how hard he works!

At Home and at his job!

I had this thought of how I could cheer him on in his life!

( Now, for the record, I do not have a good visual picture of a cheerleader in my head)

Scantly dressed and kicking her heels up, Ra Ra and all that!

But, rather a voice behind him saying things like!

Wow, you did a great job honey

I can't believe you got that all done, you work so diligently

You're so smart to be able to figure that out!

Oh your such a good provider!

(He provides you with protection and security)
And I do not mean he makes a ton of money,
But rather someone who cares about you!

I will give you a little something to think about;

If you are not willing to be your husbands cheerleader;
I can guarantee there is a woman who will be!!

Having someone to notice what you have done is universal.

Look, I can't fix all your problems,
But I can give you some advice as how doing it yourself
in a way that brings him closer to YOU!

There are two teams:
The Home Team
&
The Worlds Team

You want your Husband to get all his Rah- Rah's from HOME!

Firstly, he picked you to be on his Team
(He married YOU)

So be a good Team Cheerleader!

------  ----- He's my man,

Your Man, needs You in his court!
Fight and cheer for him!

So, get your pom- pom's out and start cheering him on!!

(You can buy yourself a set of these at the Dollar Tree)

Were you ever a cheerleader?
Do you want your husband watching cheerleader at sports events?
Get my point?

When Was The Last Time You Really Kissed Your Husband...

 

When was the last time you really kissed your husband?

This is just something I was thinking about for the last

few months. And I wanted to share a couple of thoughts on this!

Well, I know we all are giving those quick pecks when we are

leaving or arriving with our spouses!

I get that we can't just stop and make out all the time;

Really, I laugh as I write this because remember when you were 

Newly in love and could not get enough kissing in??

It was romantic and so sweet!

But now we all have been married for years

(Decades)

But it really is in the kiss that sparks a feeling of connection;

Look we are all a bit tired and the days can wear us out!

But what we need in this world is some real passion and

not this Hollywood style love and sex.

I asked my husband this morning what does a kiss from me say to him!

he said that it tells me your thinking about me!

That you love me!

That you want to show me that I matter to you!

That I feel passion towards him!

Why do wives stop kissing their husbands?

Well for one because we get in our heads that it will give them a signal;

That says; Lets __________!

So then we get programmed to not kiss them passionately or with 

at least a spark!!

So we then become the problem...

A kiss filled with some passion or spark or a bit of adventure;

Can be added with the smile or phrase that says later honey!

We may not be a hormone laced kid;

But rather a deep love of affection and physical connection!

Hollywoods warped demonstration of affection.

 And our lives that are way too busy can rob one's romance!

Holding hands and smooching are for mature and young marriages!

Let's not become dried up old prunes!

I remember well this couple that lived into their nineties;

 And this is "their story"

 Every time this couple kissed he would tell her this!

(Oh Honey You Can Do Better Than That!)

And she would giggle and give him another smooch!

I told this story at this dear mans funeral, because his wife went before him.

So the moral of the story is this!

"We are never too old to give our spouses a good kiss"

Be love birds till you die...

As I was writing this post two Doves came and perched on my window!

As if they were saying we are still together and we do things together.

And we still show are affections to each other daily!

Be Two Turtle Doves;

Be A French Hen!

And honor your two gold wedding rings...
"I Do"

So give your Husband the gift of more kissing!

Why We Must Guard Our Husbands Reputation...

 

Guard Your Husbands Reputation...

"The Heart of her husband safely trusts in her,

And he will have no lack of gain."

Why guarding our husband's reputation is a powerful way to help our husbands to trust in us!

So many men are run down by their wives in their words and actions!

When we do these things it gives others an open door to think less of him.

I have even seen it when a Mother talks in a demoralizing way about their father,

and just laugh as it is a big joke.

A reputation can be smeared in an off colored joke or an action

that shows we do not respect or honor them.

We must be very careful to speak only of their better qualities;

to our parents and friend and mostly the children.

We are not to compare our husbands qualities to other men!

Praising our husband's strengths is a gift we can give our husbands!

We also must not be a source of embarrassment to our husbands.

Crude talk or joking

Our manner of dressing

The way we manage our finances

Being where we are suppose to be

(He knows where you are)

We are called to be a treasure to our own husband's!

Can Your Husband safely trust in you?

How To Embrace Everyday Love In Your Marriage...

Everyday Love

After being  married for many years, it can bring about such a soft and comfortable love.

Some may even call this a boring love;

Not, I

Love in the beginning is young and is exciting, everything seems new.

But really you don't even know one another!

When we are courting or dating we are putting our best foot forward.

We are always seen at our very best...
We have not been tried or pushed out of our comfort zones.
Having conflict and issues in our differences allows us to grow.
One thing my husband and I have said is this;
We can agree to disagree...
We are not cookie cutter people,
We allow each other to have a difference of opinion!
We allow each other to have the space and a portion to speak
(What is in our hearts, without interrupting them)
A good marriage is not a dictatorship...
But rather a team that has to have a good leader!
In our God given roles, it has been given to him to make the last or final decision.
But I am so blessed that he inquires of me as to my thoughts,
An opinion on every major decision in our lives!

Also a good disagreement can even be healthy to clear up little
Irritations that can just start mounting up in our daily lives!
We must always be ready to resolve conflict and work together!
We always try to pull for the best outcome!
I believe God has used a marriage to teach us so many things.

Years of walking side by side, we have experienced many landscapes.
Valleys, and plains and mountains.

We are not wise to run away from the little tougher seasons or just a day or two.

In our walk with Christ it is in the very valleys we run from that we can

Become better acquainted and intimate with Him.

If You have not walked any valleys as yet;
May I tell you this dear ones,

 The valleys will come...

It is in the valleys that we are placed in the shade of the Mountain

The weight of His Glory can be seen in the shadows.

Being in a marriage for a long time is what makes a marriage vow grow
 and presses out the wimpy within us.

What started out as a wrinkle free wedding license surly can become
Wrinkled...
These wrinkles begin to show up on
 our wrinkled brows and our bed sheets,

Our wrinkled tummies from bearing the babies, we held within a once firm tummy.

Slowly you will blend and compliment one another

One day you will become familiar with what his sighs might really mean!
But only if you take the time to really listen...

You will learn that when they are silent
It does not mean that, they are angry or mad at you!
Maybe they have just had a hard day.

Marriage will change you!

But, I give you this bit of advice
 if you will love and forgive and roll into each others side

(Every night and hold each other tight)

You will live to grow comfortable and warm and not critical...

Love has many hues of color;

But it is in the dark of night or in a valley you must trust instinct.

~ keep your eyes on the Son~
Not each others faults;
For you both have many...

Real life has real challenges...

But if you resolve to love your spouse!

God will help you to become comfortable with old fashion love everyday!

May we learn to embrace Everyday Love;

Not what a romance novel might portray it to be!

God has written the greatest romance of all!

He gave it all, He held nothing back,

Why should you?

~Loving is the prize dear ones; even if it is not returned~

Love is truth in action and in words and deeds daily...

Do not become hard hearted dear ladies;

Keep your heart tender

Think the best of him always

Finding his faults will make yours grow!

Do you want to be found irresistible?

Keep loving even if it becomes hard as we are all being molded into His image.

How My Mother Spoke A shocking Truth To Me...

The Heady Scent Of A Lilac:

Can Bring a Rush Of Childhood Memories

I believe the position and privilege that a Mother carries is so powerful!

A Mothers touch upon a feverish brow

The blast of warmth coming from the kitchen;

A pot of soup simmering on the stove;

A plate of freshly baked cookie aroma penetrates, many a kitchen wall.

Truths spoken in a timely moment that was heard and remembered for a lifetime

I remember dancing with my Mother in the kitchen to the tune of

 You Ain't Women Enough (To Take my Man...)

Loretta Lynn

I learned something that day, And I am going to share it with you!

~There are Women Out There That Want Your Man~

I am grateful to this day she spoke to me and told me,

Honey, Take care of your Man when you get one;

Cuz, there are women out there that will try to steal them!

They will get all gussied up and smell really pretty and act like

They just adore your man, flirty and such!

Smiling real big and smoking too!

So, Dear Ones

Here is the one time given a speech from my Mother on this subject!

Have things changed much in our world today?

I think NOT...

When we stop to ponder and think about what are Mothers;

Imparted to us as women, we need to remember to teach the next

Generations these truths. I get sick and tired of hearing

( I never thought It would Happen to Me)

Every time I happen to hear that song or put in my CD  to hear it;

I gird myself up and resolve to keep my Man...

No Matter how long you have been married;

A couple of years or decades;

There are women out there that would love to snatch up your man!

You may have come disillusioned with his words or appearance!

Maybe you have stopped taking notice of his smile!
Or how funny he can be!

But I will warn you with this...
My Momma told me to watch and be careful;

I am still taking her advice;

I am his women, and he is my man!

Take notice of your man!

Tell him how strong he is or smells good enough to eat!

For Petes sake, you did all that when you were dating him..

Now, Keep him happy and do not let another steal your man!

But the key is...

You got to be women enough to keep him

When a Man Loves A Woman...

 

When a man loves a woman...

Do you need a little cupid dust to be sprinkled upon your head?

Do you need to be squeezed and pulled into a bear hug?

Do you need someone to fan your flame?

When a man loves a woman, He loves with a deep longing that,

God put into him...

He needs a good woman!

Yes, I can hear from this side of my little screen;

You are just looking for a good man!

We need both;

Lets face it, we are seeing so much divorce and broken homes galore.

But ladies, if you could just be patient;

Wait and see if you can find that heart in your man;

Because I have some real undercover information here!

If you are married to this man called your mate;

You do have the special part that His heart is missing...

He needs a woman with more heart than looks or money!

He has a need that only you can fill!

"Trust, integrity, honor"

Wait, these are qualities that he should have!

A man needs to have a woman that is a bit above the cut!

Why?

Because it is just getting darker and harder to keep the light,

In our marriages and homes.

I know we get tired and really worn out;

But men are the targets for so many schemes and assaults out there!

I just know how much energy and time it takes

 To run a business or work a full time job...

Been there, done that!

Did not work very well for us,

But it was a training ground for me to see what it was like,

To be out in the world, and see what my husband dealt with daily!

Coming Home...

This was not just a physical move

But a spiritual one!

When a man loves a woman he wants here heart and soul;

~Even when he has not given all of his~

It's all work my dear sweet ladies;

But, just tell me where exactly you can have, 

A little bit of heaven on this earth,

Without working at it??

Open up your own little bag of cupid dust...

Sprinkle a little love!

Remember, just a spoon full of sugar helps everything!

I have witnessed a love that was grown and blossomed with the strain of

Selfishness and Me syndrome.

God's word and advice for a good marriage is powerful,

Yet, sometimes it just takes time!

There is nothing more glorious that seeing a woman well loved...

What words of encouragement or advice can we give to each other?

How To Become An Active Listener...

Artist: Carolina Elizabeth

Responding To Our Husbands

I wish I could stress enough how important this is...

Now lets just clarify right up front here ladies,

I am speaking about responding to them with our;

Words, our body language and tone of voice. And our listening to them!

And our loving them in physical ways of contact...

None of us appreciate  or enjoy being ignored when someone is not showing

Appropriate response in listening to us when we are talking.

It can be downright frustrating!

I realize at times we are so busy it is hard to just stop when, He

May be speaking to us!

We as women are always multi tasking;

But sometimes we just stop listening;

Sometimes we stop seeing the needs that are being displayed.

I can get so busy as he can also that we both realize we need some

ALONE time...

It does not matter whether you are a newlywed or have been married

For years. We all want to be heard!

And to not feel like we are talking to ourselves.

I think one of the most important skills we need to learn;

But more importantly is to use it!

Being an ACTIVE listener...

Blah blah blah

Seriously...

Husbands feel very disrespected when we do not listen to them.

When they are talking to us!

We can do so many things just right in so many arenas;

But I can tell you for sure this one thing that we might be doing;

Can and will cause great trouble!

I had an older woman tell me many years ago to STOP

Interrupting my Husband and to look at him when he was speaking to me!

( I NEVER)

Was my first thought, I was mad and embarrassed over this correction.

But she was right and very wise...

When I started doing as she suggested, the whole relationship blossomed!

We all need to be heard!

We all can learn to be an active listener!

We can respond with our eyes, and our head nodding!

We can respond in a way that he will be validated!

I am sure we have all experienced this;

When we are watching a movie;

And someone starts talking to us, we just space them out!

(Well, if this is the way you act all the time)

You can see that this can become a real source of trouble for a marriage.

Can you hear me?

Are You listening?

Do you think you are a good listener?

What Your Husband Really Wants For Christmas...

 

Growing in Grace...

On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me...

"What your Husband really wants for Christmas"

For you to stay within your budget $$

Showing him Respect and Responding...

Having an attitude of Joy!

Adorning yourself with kindness = Gentle, quiet spirit

Giving him love and attention ;o)

A Clean and Tidy HOME

Clean Sheets and a Comfy Bedroom

For you to smell sweet!

*For you to look elegant and composed*

~Making meals that keep his tummy full~

Do what you say you are going to do...

Give him some peace and quiet every day when possible!

Tell him something that is lovely to hear...

He wants you to not act like a crazy person running

around trying to have a perfect Christmas!

He just wants peace and comfort and joy;

With his true love...

~Make this a holiday to remember~

For Pete Sake...

For Pete's Sake...

Why do I do some of the things I do?

Some days we just need to take inventory;

What are you doing that is driving your Husband nuts?

Or making a very negative impression on our children.

Are you murmuring under your breath, while doing your housework?

Can he or your children hear you grumble over the piles of

Loads of laundry sitting by the washer?

Are you whining that we have to cook another meal again?

After all, you just finished washing up with that last sink of dirty dishes.

Grumble, stumble and lose your peace;

And you rob it from everyone else around you!

Learning to be joyful while working at keeping your home!

Learning can only happen if you are teachable:

That is why it is important to take inventory of how and what.

How are you acting?

If you are really brave, try asking your Husband or Children

This question;

Is there something I am doing that rather irritates you!

(You had better be ready for some truth here)

I have done that a few times in many years of marriage,

I am glad that I did as it allowed me to see a few things

That caused unrest in our relationship.

Men do not admire a wife who nagged at them all the time.

They take it personally when we complain we don't have enough

of something we may want in our shopping baskets.

Children can feel that they are the source of contention in a home

Where they hear all the time how much work you have to do

everyday for them. And I am all for training children to

appreciate what they have and to be good stewards of it.

My Mother would say when she was overwhelmed or

upset over something, this little phrase.

(For Pete's sake)

Okay, so this post is for my Mother and of course;

(Pete's Sake)

Whoever he is...

Here is the only Pete I can think of...

Pete from the Little Rascals...

My Hero

And remember we all cannot be the Chief Indian

We need squaws and little Indians too!

Here is a little video of the pooch;
Click The Link Below


The Pooch

How To Incorporate Date Night...

Making time for those special times together.

We are always so busy and we all have very full schedules!

The hubbub never ends, we can go 24/7

We as women would be wise to see the importance of

Implementing a date night with our Husbands.

When the children were small we could only have evenings alone

 While watching a movie.

 Or maybe just going out for pie and coffee.

But it does not matter if you have been married a lot of years;

Date Night

Or

Date Days

Must be done every so often!

We need this to keep things in touch with one another.

We can be together very often, but sometimes we do not let our

guard and busy brains just stop and enjoy!

Sitting across from one another and just really looking at each other!

We all need some alone time with our mates.

You can do these times together, even in the daytime;

If you even enjoy meeting with another couple for fellowship!

No hard, fast rules;

But being together and enjoying some laughter!

Meeting your Husband's needs is very important to keep

The Love Light glowing

(Or at least On)

So many are feeling the outside pressures of life, work and family

But we must remind ourselves

 as to how making this time is so important!

I had a lady tell me many years ago to always remember;

To put your Husband first!

Date Night or Date Day

You just need to be together...

Will you go out with me?

How Making Breakfast Keeps Your Man Happy (Green Chili Omelette)...

 

A good breakfast is a perfect way to start your day!

Having chickens for many years has offered a very

Fresh and nutritious form of protein.

And we are known in these parts for our Chilis;

Hot, mild and just flavorful!

I will eat a hot one once in a while, but the mild is for me.

We are way past the egg not being a healthy form of protein!

Or at least I hope you are!

I have never seen so many troubles with diets in our world.

Between no gluten and lactose intolerance for so many people.

I have my own idea what has caused this to be so prominent.

How to make a Green Chili omelette;

I like to get my chilies cooking first in the pan.

Then I sprinkle on the chesses, cheddar is best I think.

Then I pour in the eggs I whipped up!

You can flip it once to cook the bottom.

Serve with a side of meat like ham or bacon.

 A cinnamon roll is always a nice addition.

But we mostly use a whole grain bread!

I enjoy serving my Hubby a very filling breakfast;

made with love!
As this keeps him Happy and well cared for!

Oh, don't forget to thank the Lord!

Do you eat eggs?

Have you discovered any eating troubles caused from certain foods?

I am still trying to take sugar out of my diet.

It is so hard when our foods we eat are all carbohydrates...

Learning and growing is what keeps us happy and healthy.

Going to try my hand at an Irish Soda bread recipe;

Made with half rye flour and half whole wheat flour.

It will be a rustic sort of bread, but very low in glycemic index.

"Happy Day and eat well my friends"

Feeding Your Man...

 

A Man Needs A Good Meal

So many men are just plain hungry...

If you want your Hubby to want to come home quickly,

Then you have the very thing to use daily to ensure that they

Do come HOME soon after work or running errands.

I love having my hubby home,

 I love the fact He wants to come HOME

I think one thing I have done very early on in my marriage was this;

FEED MY HUSBAND

Everyday...

He does not have to run out and get a sandwich or a burger

With friends or with the guys he works with.

I have seen way too many men, just plain hungry!

Now, I know many Men like to cook!

I think that is wonderful!

But I am also glad that my Husband wants and loves my cooking!

He prefers my breakfast specials,

He loves my hamburgers with green chilies on them.

He loves anything that is made from our kitchen.

This is called HOME COOKING...

I am not a gourmet cook, I cook and serve Home style meals.

Call me old fashion;

A man needs to know and can count on an evening meal for sure.

Some men need a big breakfast!

Some need a hearty lunch!

If you want to keep a Hubby happy feed him ladies!

I would hope that making a satisfying meal for him

 would also give you pleasure.

This is a test;

Cook some potatoes,

Now this week I want you to make at least one of these up!

Fried potatoes

Boiled potatoes 

Mashed potatoes

Baked potatoes

Serve with another meat or salad!

And a side dish of  veggies, applesauce or biscuits.

You will have a very Happy Hubby!

I think the potato is a homemakers best friend

Besides the crock-pot.

You can buy potatoes so cheap, and they can be very nutritious!

Please Feed Your Man!!

What is a food item that is a staple in your cooking?

Share how you might like to cook your potatoes!

How To Stop The Micro Manager Mode...

Feisty

The Manager And The Micro Manager

Micro Manager sounds out of place in the context of working along

side of my Husband...

But this is what I find myself doing with all of our

 Home improvement projects!

I am very concerned with my feisty intent!

(That is what my Husband calls me)

REALLY...

Okay, after years of working along side my Husband in our

Many Home improvement endeavors.

I am still always trying to control how we should do this project

 step by step!

I am tired of hearing myself trying to tell him, how we

should be doing things.

Just for the record, my Husband is a Boss or Foremen of the

A facility, he works in.

 So he has had much experience in this skill.

So I guess he would recognize a micro- manager when he hears one.

Will I ever learn to be completely quiet

 in my assessments in our projects?

I am seriously doubting it at my age!

He says he likes it when I get feisty sometimes,

But other times he tells me to settle down.

Now, I want to explain that even though I am a very good painter;
And I am a good at caulking gaps
(You can either caulk or you cannot)
So, I do all the caulking that needs to be done.
I also work very hard to help my Hubby!
So WHY do I turn every project into;
The Mico- Manager mode?
(Code for Bossy)

I have found myself apologizing to him for
being so bossy!

But he has finally told me on this last project;
Honey, I do everything for you
You're the reason I do them...
And I do not mind that you get a little feisty once in a while!

I just didn't want you all to think that this little lady
Didn't have a bit of fire at times!

We were painting my spare room (sewing room)
A KISS of pink
And a Mint green
A white chair rail trim
A light taupe carpet color

So I used the name of the color of the paint as my humor
For being feisty
Every time I get into my Micro-Manager Mode =  BOSSY
I would KISS him and say
"A Kiss Of Pink Sweetie"
And I would KISS him...

The room looks great!
We survived another remodel project.
And I learned he is not even phased by my Micro-Manager disposition
(ONCE in a while)

He told me he loved my creative ideas
 and my willing to work hard beside him!
I think he likes me...

Are You a Micro Manager?
We need to be very careful that this character trait does not,
overflow into all areas. As then we become contentious.
And controlling (Bossy)

Keeping your communication open;
Looking at your motive!
Being a good co-worker is a great way to build a strong
Marriage in your home endeavors.

We are always building up our HOMES
Or tearing them down...

Working well alongside my Man...

Disrespecting Your Husband...

He looks upon his wife as his most trusted confidants!

Or do you repeat every confidence he speaks to you?

I have heard too many things over the years that I believe were meant

To be private, and unreported.

We must make allowances for some of these things that are spoken;

They may be spoken while tired or angry!

We can all attest to saying something we did not mean to say!

So we must remember that when our Husbands speak in confidence to us,

We are not given the liberty to repeat it!

If you are not sure if it is something you should repeat;

Ask Your Husband if you should mention it to anyone?

I would rather ask him if I should repeat something, then to feel

Very bad that I broke confidence!

He needs to know that He can trust you with his sorrow or frustration!

We all need a safe place to speak about such things!

By keeping confidence you are showing respect for your Husbands name!

We do not want to be the ones bringing reproach upon our own Husbands

And families!

A good name is very valuable...

An older woman many years ago told me this very statement!

She said:

Are you guilty?

We have even done this all in the name of fun!

BIG mistake...

A man needs to be shown honor and integrity!

And if you make light or fun of his sharing his heart he will stop!

Then you whine and complain He never tells me anything.

If you are guilty of this type of behavior ask him to forgive you!

Ask the Lord to forgive you!

We need to learn to ZIP it...

Just because they said it; does not give us permission to repeat it!

And if you are in the habit of speaking badly about your Husband to yourself

(self-talk)

Or to any of the others listed below

Parents, or children, or girlfriends, you are sinning!

As an older woman I beseech you to stop this disrespecting

Of Your Husband...

Ask the Lord to set a guard over your mouth!

Please Be a Husband, Lover...

 

How to be a Husband, Lover...

Well, it is pretty easy; The only requirement is dying to self!

And consider the cost;

Think not more highly of yourself than you ought!

Prefer Your Husband over everyone else...

Keep your vows on your door-post of your heart!

Renew your vows to him daily in word and need;

(I am not talking about repeating them, but rather living them)

Start each new day with a plan and conviction

Read the WORD

Doing something just for HIM

Dust his desk

Bake his favorite meal or dessert.

Plan a picnic at a park or in your backyard!

Write him a love note:

Tell him he is handsome

Kiss him and hold his hand often!

Ask his advice and use it...

Make sure he has clean clothes

Keep a few shirts and pants pressed

(How your Husband looks, reflects a good wife)

He may be standing at the city gates...

~Please smell wonderful for him

Wear your hair for him

Dress for him~

Watch your mouth!!

You can look sweet and talk like a truck driver

Tell him thank you often

Keep your words kind

(May the law of kindness be upon your lips)

If you are exhausted tell him and ask him to hold you!!

When he comes home, tell him you are so glad he is home.

Give him a few minutes to unwind after his day!

Never tell him over the phone while he is at work,

(How terrible your day is, or what has gone wrong)

Being a Husband, lover is a joy if you will invest and impart

Into him and his life; as there are returns here and in the

Heavens!!

Remember Jesus came to serve us!

Shall we not serve our Husbands, and love them?

Share some of the things that you might do that makes YOU

A Husband, lover!?...

The aged women...teach the young women to be sober, 

to love their husbands, to love their children, 

to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, 

good, obedient to their own husbands, 

that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Titus 2:3-5

Make it and aim to teach others how to love their own Husbands!

This picture was taken at our renewing of our wedding vows last year!