These Vintage Roosters Make Me Miss My Mother in Law
Country Decor
French Country
Farm Country
These Chickens belong to my mother-in-law!
I believe they belonged to her Mother
These are a sweet treasure to me!
She has been gone for a long time!
She was a very special and dear person to me!
I realized that over the years how blessed I was to have
Such a wonderful Mother-in-law!
So I want to title this post-
Don't Be A Toxic Mother-in-Law...
I believe when I was first married over 40 years ago;
I had no idea on how she treated me would impact the rest
Of my relationships!
Think of this family dynamics this way;
You both love the same man.
He now needs to cleave to his wife;
She was kind to me and didn't judge me,
She was patient with me,
She was not critical!
She taught me to crochet!
She made me think I was the best cook ever!
(I wasn't) :)
Here are a few things I remember she did that were huge!
She didn't act jealous of me as her son showed me so much attention!
She didn't choose sides when we were having difficulties!
She made a big deal about my Birthday!
She spoke well about my own Mother!
She honored my efforts at being a wife and a mother!
She walked with me in difficult days, Not over me!
~Don't Be A Toxic Mother-in-Law~
Seek to be a Blessing
Encourage Them
You can impact her life in many ways,
With being kind and loving and helpful!
We can teach someone without any words!
Don't repeat what she might tell you!
Pray for them daily!
If she compliments something she has made for her son;
Ask her if she might like to have the recipe.
Just because she married your son, this is not a competition!!
Realize it takes time to develop housekeeping skills!
Remember how insecure you were
When you were but a young bride?
Respect goes a long way, even if you would do things differently!
Make your daughter-in - law feel like family.
Not an outsider!
Don't force your son to choose between the two of you!!!!
Because he will take his bride's side, as he should!!!
Compliment her good qualities!
Trust me she has some!!!!
Never speak negatively about her!
Learn quickly to not do this, as it will cause great damage!
Try to only give advice if she is asking about something!
Be available!
Remember to call and ask if it's okay to come visit.
And maybe once in awhile bring a small little gift just for her!
It is never too late to become a great Mother-in-Law!!
She is the only reason I learned to be a good mother-in-law!
She was teaching me by her actions and responses.
What a blessing to your son to choose to love
The very one he has chosen to be his wife!
~Blessings To Each Every Every Mother and
Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-laws~
Roxy
XOXO
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This is such wise advice Roxy. Before my son married, I told him that he must put his wife above everyone now, including me. Whilst we live far away, I still try very hard not to interfere or put my son above her, and I endeavour to treat her as my daughter. I hope I’m doing a good job so far!
ReplyDeleteP.S I love your roosters.
God Bless,
Christine
This is wonderful advice! God bless you!
ReplyDeleteI was also blessed with a wonderful mother-in-law, and I seek to be that same way with my own daughter-in-law. I have been practicing good mother-in-lawship for 8+ years and it has been worth every effort. I have a wonderful relationship with mine and I intend to keep it that way. This is the most valuable information you could ever share, Roxy. Excellent post! 🥰❤️
ReplyDeleteI too had a wonderful mother in law, I wish I had realized it sooner! She was a strong women who raised 3 boys alone, my husband being the baby! She loved me and I learned strength from her. My mother and her became really good friends. That made family gathering so plesant.
ReplyDeleteI now have 3 sons in law and one daughter in law. ( I call her the daughter of my heart) and could not love her more than my own daughters. Thank you for sharing this imporant truth. Nothing is worse that a toxic relationship in a family!
Hello Roxy, lovely post. My son has a toxic wife. I hardly see my son. She is very controlling. I don't interfere in their lives. Families can be difficult. I try to be there when they need me. Thank you for your sweet compliment. I love setting a beautiful table for family and friends.
ReplyDeleteLinda, I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this situation. We are in the same situation with one of our daughter in laws. Our other daughter in law and son in law are wonderful and we're very grateful. Just keep praying for your DIL, that's what we do because God can work miracles.
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Betsy
Thank you for this post. I just spent four weeks with my newest daughter in law and baby in London while our son was in Japan for work. I. had a wonderful time and we cherished the time alone together. Our son in law is very much loved too. Our other daughter in law doesn't want anything to do with the family. It does make it very hard on our son and teenage grandchildren. We realize that there is nothing we can do about it, but God can change her spirit so we pray unceasingly.
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Betsy
Such wise advise you shared, and I loved hearing how your MIL was such a blessing in your life! I too, am very blessed with a wonderful, loving MIL, who has always been like a second mother to me. She and my own mother are wonderful friends, and our families were always close too. I am so grateful for this! I am blessed with a wonderful daughter-in-law (who calls me Mom), and a son-in-law who also calls me Mom. We are friends with their families as well, have taken day trips, and camping trips with both our children's in-law families. My heart breaks for those who have family members who separate and divide the family. I will be praying for all those here who are suffering with difficult relationships, it is so hurtful. Jesus is the only answer! Blessings to you dear friend!
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