Why Multi Generational Families Are Like Golden Roses...

 

Multi Generational Life

I have been giving this a lot of thought lately,

And it is about something that no longer carries much weight in today's

Society...

When I was a young mother I had hopes and dreams for our children;

It included many things. But it was a hearts desire to help them

build strong marriages and homes and children that were taught and trained!

But mostly loved and cherish...

I do think homes that equip their children to live successfully.

Tools of a trade or life skills.

But I think we have lost a valuable multi-generational family homes.

Grandparents were given the stature and love and position.

Wisdom came from this older generation!

And the younger parents gave the old ones a reason to carry on!

Maybe the wind in our sails after we had lived a long life.

Each generation is needed!

We can share the wisdom and the work and the bounty.

Our lack of multi-generational leaves so many elder forks sad and lonely.

We all need purpose and helping each other with days filled with so much to do!

Grandparent

Parents

Children

God wanted families to support each other

Emotionally

Physically

Spiritually

We have all so separated ourselves from our parents and children;

We all seem rather separate and many relationships have drifted apart.

What is lost from families living either on different continents or different states.

Holidays are spent apart.

Birthdays

Teachable moments are non existent

If  a burden arises we cannot be much help with it.

We all know that our children will grow up, as it should be!

I just think we never realized the impact of having them so far away.

Believe me, I know the assisted living places and nursing homes,

Are just filled with people that never thought they would be alone.

Many older folks even sell their homes and move to their retirement homes

Far, far away from all grown children and grandchildren.

We may be in any one of these stages on purpose or by a bad choice!

But I am just saying so many families do not stay together or get along!

So if you have the pleasure and blessing of having your children

 Or grandchildren, or even your parents close in proximity.

Look at it as a good thing and treasure it!

We need to learn to value multi- generations...

This Post Is written for all you women who have made your calling sure...

Home and Family

Panning For Gold And Get Rich Quick Schemes...

 

Looking For Gold...

Everything in this world will cost you something!

I have had the opportunity many times to look into a flowing

Stream, coming out of the mountains. And I will tell you, seeing a gold speck,

Always makes my heart jump!

But every time we picked it out of the stream it was but fools gold!

Many years ago we had what they called the Gold Rush in California.

I can only imagine the heartache that so many women endured during

That season of a wanting to get rich quick by leaving their families.

And going out west!

So many never even made it back to their homes or families!

Life was brutal and hard and so many would kill to take another's claim.

There really is no sure way to get rich quickly...

Most wealth is produced by hard work and being frugal and being a giver!

A good day's labor will give the increase!

I have always wondered about a man that will not work

I believe it causes unrest in their souls!

The statistics say that when a man retires they lose interest in life!

We must learn to be rich in things that do not pass away!

Finding the real gold nuggets in the stream called life.

We can be rich in many many things in this world...

Schemes that require no work or effort always leave you with fools gold!


Another thing that seems out of line anymore is what we consider,
To be of worth or might be considered prosperous!

Being able to work and still wanting to contribute to
the well being of one's family structure.
By this I mean helping...
Coming along side one another, pulling your own weight and helping another!

When you have your health you have great wealth...
Strive to do a body good;
Sleep, drink plenty of water, take a supplement daily.
Keep your mind stimulated; Read a good book.
Walk everyday (This is simple to do and cheap)
Eat good foods that are dense yet hearty and simple.
This time of year is plentiful in acorn squash's and butternut squash
Sweet potatoes, Velvety red potatoes.
Bake them in your oven and it warms up the house.
And smells wonderful and makes your mouth water.
Take your walk while they're in the oven baking.

Plan and prepare your course of action;
Do what is in front of you!
Be rich in praise and thanksgiving...

Do the duty that has been assigned to you!
It is your job and task...
Be not lazy, work and you will have sweet sleep...

Reflections Of What We Hope To Become...

Reflection in the mirror or in the past days or season's of our lives...

It is a good thing to look at one's self in the mirror of how others.

May perceive you, not that we should pay too much attention to what

Others think of us. But rather what does the mirror reflect?

Sometimes I do this and wonder, have I built bridge's that will

Support the weight of strenuous times that is always possible in our lives.

We must learn and grow from our past mistakes;

We can learn by seeing how we responded to stress.

And I can assure you that not all stress is bad.

It is usually a feeling of we must preform!

We do have an obligation to practice what position we are in!

Firstly, we are in Christ Jesus

So because of this position we will be required to pass

certain test and trials...

But as we reflect and read and respond to the truth

(Available in The Holy Bible)

We will change, and your position may look differently.

Have you ever believed something so strongly that you might,

Be what we would call dogmatic about it?

To only find after a decade or century you had a different opinion!

Dogmatic

1.

Relating to or of the nature of a dogma or dogmas or any strong set of principles concerning faith, morals, etc., as those laid down by a church; doctrinal:

We hear dogmatic arguments from both sides of the political spectrum.

2.

Asserting opinions in a doctrinaire or arrogant manner; opinionated:

I refuse to argue with someone so dogmatic that he won't listen to reason

I am going to say this, opinion and truth are not the same!

I do not think there was a new truth, but rather a clearer understanding...

So, As I age and grow I ask the Lord to help me be discerning.

Do not be so naive to believe everything you are being taught!

In the churches 

In the schools

In the universities

In the Seminaries

In the New York Best Seller Books List

In the Christian bookstores

In the newspapers

Do your homework...

Check out the facts, historical and biblically.

Google can actually find some very sound and outstanding

Information and direct you to some very good resources.

Just because it's on the internet does not make it true.

But we can ask for wisdom and we can ask for the truth!

We can dig and ponder and pray and not be deceived!

I love the scripture that says be convinced in your own mind...

Just because everyone is doing it does not make it right!

Does it even really make a difference it what we believe?

Be willing to be teachable...

Be like the Berean's!

Acts 17: 11 Now the Berean Jew were of more Noble Character than...

Now the Bereans were more noble-minded than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day ...

If anyone calls you a Berean it is a high compliment!

Spur One Another On...

How can I encourage another to love and to do good deeds?

Life has a way of wearing out the saints

 But the Lord knew that would happen. 

So He gave us each other.

Sometimes even in the toughest times, a smile or a timely word can lift a heavy heart.

Also a gentle reminder to trust while walking a difficult path, can help support our weak knees.

Discouragement will only last a short while.

 It only seems like a very long time...

I am always being refined;
Being in a furnace is very uncomfortable
(Anyone who has ever experienced a hot flash can mildly relate)

We learn when we submit or in some cases have a bit put into our mouths.

How will we be able to encourage another in any hard times,
If we have never been there?

We can see an error in our way at times;
But it is way easier to see the error in another life.

But can you really appreciate it when something of truth is being presented?
I find my own human nature to be rather of the stiff neck sort of group.

Well the point of this post is this;
Correction can be the very thing God will use to spur us on!
Because who wants to be travelling at a high speed in a wrong direction?

To Examine Oneself is a  good thing;
As God will search our hearts.
To provoke one another to good works;
Is by drawing near to God, ourselves, so we can be a blessed influence.

Finding truth is becoming a very rare jewel;
Are we living in the time of Apostasy?

True Christian assembling is for the worship of God,
and for mutual edification of His truth.

But we live in a world where truth is irrelevant;
If it's true to you then so goes the whole bus speeding down the hill.
To exhort one another, to exhort ourselves, to warn of sin and danger.
To watch over one another with the true gospel spirit;
This would be to me a real friendship with my fellow believer.

So, according to this scripture. If I really loved you
I would warn you of danger!

I think a speed bump is a good thing for those speeding buses filled
with people going in a wrong direction.
It gives them time to say let me off here...

So let us consider...

If you see someone living in sin, do we say anything?

Or we would rather mind our own business.

 And not say anything for fear we might offend!

I appreciate you all so much; we are all living out our days!

Blessings, Roxy

Living From Glory To Glory

Feelings Of Being Lonely After You Become An Empty Nester...

Feeling Lonely

When I was a very young woman and mother and wife;

I really can not remember feeling lonely;

I do remember wondering if I would even be able to find 5 minutes to myself.

After my children were grown and left home;

I dare say I went into a terrible funk...

I felt my whole purpose in life had flown out the window.

Raising children really is a full time job,

as it least was for me...

No one ever told me or even warned me of how sad I would feel when

That season would be over how I might just feel!

I remember telling my sister how sad and lonely I felt;

Well, she told me this

This my dear is your reward...

To do and be and to create and read and craft and crochet,

And to bake and clean the house and it stays clean.

Laundry that only requires 2-3 loads a week!

Now, what I am saying is this was a healthy perception of this

Very lonely dilemma.

I spent many years remaking my days and outlook on life!

The purpose of this post is to all you wonderful and blessed mommies

is that this season will pass!

And it is very wise to keep ideas and thoughts in your heart

Some things you would like to do when you become an EMPTY HOME.

But, I also want to say make the time and the relationship with your HUSBAND

In the top priority NOW...

Yes, I have said in the past, I do get lonely especially in the evenings.

But also this is when I do feel a bit emotional and spent from a long day.

It seems that I always thought I would have more friends,

And all my family around me.

But they now have their own lives and some have moved far away.

So, I trust the Lord and I keep moving forward...

I miss many things, but I am still learning to take pleasure in the

small and comforting things I can do for myself and my dear hubby.

Keep your heart free from living to much in the past.

Keep your eyes on the eternal price.

Keep asking the Lord, where and what He wants you to do!

Keep your heart at HOME even if everyone has moved on!

I do wonder if it is maybe even harder for women who have worked

outside the home, during the time the children were living at home?

Also, I have had many friends that have gone back to work

 after their children were grown or just older.

I do hope someone will find a bit of encouragement from this post!

I do know I still enjoy the fellowship and yet everything now days

Does seem to be what others call squeeze it in...

Remember the word does tell us to leave in cleave

Honor the Father and thy Mother

Do not forsake the assembling together.

Everything changes according to His will in all our lives!

Sharing A Memory That Was Just Good Old Fashion Fun...

CLEAR SHALLOW WATER AND PURE WHITE SANDY BEACHES

Okay, I realize that we are now in November...

But I just had to share with you a wonderful experience I had this past summer!

I would not say that I have the need or desire to live on the edge.
I am more of the slow and lazy moving kind of gal.

But I guess I do have what I would call a very small list of things,
I have always wanted to do!
(I don't really care for the term called a Bucket List)

But this was something I really wanted to do!

So, My wonderful grown children made it happen;

We took a trip down a river on only inner tubes;
We did not use the canoe approach as this picture shows!
The water was very shallow as long as you stayed in the middle of the river.
And you moved at a steady clip as long as you stayed in the flow.
The water was super warm.

The name of the river had the name that just seemed a bit
un-lovely
The Black River

Wait, this is in the middle of a state known for its alligators...

What was I thinking?

This trip only takes 5 hours!

What!

I did pray that I would not hear any commotion along the river banks;
Such as a very hungry creature looking for a quick snack.

I did happen upon two old boys in a small boat;
And I asked them...
Hey, have you guys seen any alligators??
They merely shook their heads,
And one of them spoke up and said not a one today!
Gulp...
Pray harder

We had a ball and not even one little gator crashed our party!

I have always had this idea that;
I would like to try something new every year!

And this was something I will always remember!

We were a group of nine of us,
And I kid you not I was wearing a sun visor that said
LIFEGUARD

So every time our daughter and her sweet little one got stuck in
The Bayou, I had to swim in way over my head and pull her out and
Back into the middle of the flow,
 But she just would not stay with the pack!

I had to rescue her too many times to count...

I only capsized twice and I laughed till I cried!

I will not be wearing the LIFEGUARD visor again if you know what I mean!

What have you done that will be a wonderful memory to last your lifetime?

What Are The Ramifications Of Being Exposed To Fear...

 

What are the long term effects of being exposed to fear?

How early can a child being exposed to fear have symptoms of fear?

Is fear a spirit?

What are some of the things we can become afraid of?

Do people get addicted to fear?

What Are The Long Term Effects Of Being Exposed To Fear?

Some people never get over a fear they have experienced in their lives. It can come from just being in a cellar during a tornado when they were a child. And as soon as they see storm clouds forming they begin to feel the physical symptoms of being afraid and not safe.

It can be from hearing a terribly loud and unfamiliar noise during the night while babysitting alone.

So even as a grown woman you find it very hard and become fearful about being home alone.

So what I have heard and seen from many people fear, from their early childhood has been with them their whole adult lives.

We would hope we are helping our children feel safe in a world that is growing very un-safe.

How Early Can A Child Being Exposed To Fear Have Symptoms?

Even a baby will flinch their little bodies when we say boo and jump at them. Very small children that have seen a scary movie or even a scary costume have had nightmares right away and can last for them a very long time. Children cannot tell reality from play acting until much older.
Why do so many little ones want to sleep with their parents or a sibling if fear has not affected them?
Why do so many children have what they call Night Terrors while sleeping...
Many children become very afraid of the dark, even if it is normal power outages.
We had a friend that would say, I am not afraid of the dark, but rather what's in the dark!
Ask yourself, what really comes out at night??

Is Fear A Spirit?

Yes, I believe fear can be called a spirit, because it is so devastating and brings much pain and discomfort to ones heart and soul. And the scripture tells us that God's Word says, I have not given you a spirit of FEAR, but of power and love and a sound mind...
The devil only wants to kill, steal and destroy all people!

What Are Some Of The Things We Can Be Afraid Of?

Well, I am convinced people can become afraid of just about everything, but some fear exposure has been put upon them from pure ignorance and not protecting them in their early years of growing up.
One of the stupidest things I have heard is when a child is afraid, someone will tell them don't be afraid... Really, you think it is that easy? Fear is the toughest thing to overcome!
You can become afraid of any one of these things from just one bad experience!
Fire
Water
Storms
Being Alone
Being Lost
So, why would we knowingly expose our loved ones to something scary?

Can People Become Addicted To Fear?

Yes, fear is something our culture loves...

It produces a rush and brings feel good hormones, to someone that when they first tried something or read a horror book were terrified they now need it more scary and graphic.

How I Make My Fall Treat Mix...

My Fall Treat Mix

When fall comes around, I always like to make a special mix of sweet and salty treats.

I enjoy adding a cereal that has a maple flavor to it!

I know this may be not on your food list of things to eat, but it is only once a year!

I have always thought the memories that it comes with it is so worth it!

~I am sure you foodies out there will make a healthier version~

But, it makes me happy and brings a smile to my face...

You can really add anything you want into your own batch;

But sweet and salty is what I aim for in mine.

It really is convenient to make up a batch and store in a pretty glass jar!

I always make up a little bag of it and put it in my car for a snack.

You can add fruit or nuts, really whatever your heart desires.

Why are making memories so powerful to one's heart and sense's?

I have come to a stage in my life where I believe I can answer that very question.

Everything holds a memory;

That is why we must always take heed to make some good ones.

I am thankful that the good ones over power the ones that hinder or harm.

Do you know that even the sound of your voice portrays an emotion?

That is why our tone is so important!

Keep the bitterness out of our words;

As we may just have to eat them...

May our words be salty or sweet!

My Recipe For My Fall Mix

1 bag of pretzels

1 bag of goldfish crackers

1 box of Chocolate Grahams

1 small bag of chocolate M&M's

3 cups of Maple flavor cereal

Please share with me what you like to put into your Fall Mix!
Also see two other ideas for Fall mixes below!


Here Is A Photo Of What I Used...

Here are two other Blog sites showing their versions of a Fall Mix

Spicy Cereal Mix Using Chex Cereal From God's Grace Overflows

A Kosher Fall Mix From Living For Yeshua

Please check out these other sites for inspiration;

Blessings, Roxy