Monday, October 23, 2017

Do You Have To Initiate Everything...

 


Amazing!


Elks bugle
Tarzan used to bugle

Can You Hear Me?

My Husband tells me all the time that if you want to fellowship;
or have company or have someone to do something with;
You must be the initiator...

The way I look at it, most the time it's no problem.

But it is becoming so hard for others to do anything outside
Their daily schedules in life to life.

Finding time to fellowship with others is getting harder!

So the priority is God first
(Prayer, Bible Reading, Prayer)

My Dear Hubby
(Making time to cuddle and to chat)
Making good meals
Keeping the Home in good order
These things make his life easier!

So sometimes we just need to keep things to a dull roar...
I no longer want to initiate everything!

Stay close to home and only keep the
Friendships that are worth making time to show them
That they are special to you and worth the time and effort you make!

Using our days wisely is very important!

A friend told me this morning;
Everyone gets on the treadmill every morning;
And some may never get off.

But remember some things are so worth initiating!
Ask for wisdom in this...

Blessings, Living From Glory To Glory

15 comments:

  1. I think folks are living to fast these days, social media I think has played a big part. You are so right, our first priority is God, then husband and family. I measure my true friendships this way, that if I don't see a friend for a long while, when we do meet agin we pick up right where we left off. Thank you for a very thoughtful post.
    Blessings,
    Sue

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  2. What a thought provoking post, Roxy. It is so true- social media has taken over so much of our lives that we don't have the time to just hang out with friends like we used to do. We do have a group that gets together several times a year but when we were younger (even with little kids) we did a lot more things together and spent more time in the homes of each other. Life just changes, I guess, and we need to keep the important things first and foremost in our lives. xo Diana

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  3. This is very true. My husband and I were just talking the other night about the fact that as an Elder in the church, we feel is very important to get to know everyone. So every week we would invite someone for dinner on Friday evening. We very rarely have anyone for dinner any longer because we can't seem to find anyone that isn't already too busy. It's very sad when "stuff" takes priority over relationships. I don't know what the answer is or if we can ever go back.
    Blessings, Betsy

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  4. I thought when I retired from teaching that I would want to see my school friends and would go eat lunch, etc. I haven't eaten out one lunch with school friends. Between spending time with my family, taking care of my mom, and just doing the things that I longed to do at home for so long, I have very little desire to get out. I know many of them wonder what happened to me, but I am just at a season to be home and I am loving it.

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  5. I’m at the age to where I appreciate the slow pace of life. I don’t need to SEE someone but I do enjoy a phone conversation, to keep in touch. I also enjoy blogs that inspire me or challenge me. Some blogs are like good friends, helpful and loving.

    Thanks for inspiring and challenging me!

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  6. Using our days wisely is so very important! We sometimes lose focus and get scattered. It's so important at any age or time to make sure those things that are most important are taken care of first. Then initiate other things. We have to be so careful to weigh the importance of each thing we give our time to. People or activity. Value your wisdom!

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  7. DEAR SISTER: LA SALUDO DESDE BUENOS AIRES, ARGENTINA. ME SIENTO IDENTIFICADA CON SU COMENTARIO. A VECES PONE MAL QUE NUESTROS HERMANOS DE LA CONGREGACION NO NOS VISITEN, NO TENEMOS AMISTADES DEL MUNDO CON MI ESPOSO, ASI QUE SOLO NOS RELACIONAMOS CON LOS HERMANOS DE LA IGLESIA, PERO SOLO LOS DOMINGOS CUANDO VAMOS AL CULTO¡¡¡¡ CUANDO SALIMOS DE LA IGLESIA, TODOS SALEN APURADOS, NO HAY TIEMPO PARA CONVERSAR.DURANTE LA SEMANA NO VEO A NADIE Y CASI NUNCA ME LLAMAN POR TELEFONO, A VECES CREO QUE YO DEBO TOMAR LA INICIATIVA, PERO NO TENGO MUCHO TIEMPO, SOMOS 9 DE FAMILIA, HAY MUCHOS NIÑOS Y ALGUNOS TIENEN NECESIDADES ESPECIALES, PERO MI CORAZON ANHELA VISITAS. SE QUE MI PRIORIDAD ES EL SEÑOR PRIMERO, LUEGO MI FAMILIA, MI CASA, PERO ¿DONDE ENCAJAN LOS VERSICULOS DONDE DICE LA PALABRA DE DIOS SOBRE LA UNION ENTRE HERMANOS, EL DE VISITARNOS, EL DE AYUDARNOS, EL DE CONSOLARNOS MUTUAMENTE? ESTAMOS VIVIENDO EN TIEMPOS DIFICILES, MUY APURADOS, NADIE TIENE TIEMPO PARA VISITAS, YO ME HAGO CARGO PUES NO LO HAGO POR FALTA DE TIEMPO, LA FAMILIA DEMANDA MUCHA ATENCION Y LAS TAREAS DEL HOGAR TAMBIEN, AMO ESTE LUGAR QUE DIOS ME DIO A VECES ME SIENTO TRISTE, ORO AL SEÑOR PARA QUE ME ORIENTE EN ESTE TEMA, HACE 20 AÑOS QUE NOS CONGREGAMOS EN FAMILIA, YA DE LOS VIEJOS QUEDAN POCO, HAN VENIDO NUEVOS HERMANOS JOVENES O ADULTOS, PERO NO NOS CONOCEMOS. A VECES SIENTO DESEOS DE CAMBIAR DE IGLESIA, PERO MI ESPOSO ME RECUERDA QUE NO VOY A ENCONTRAR UNA IGLESIA PERFECTA. RECIBE UN ABRAZO A LA DISTANCIA Y OJALA USTED ME RESPONDA

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  8. I see a lack of desire for the development of relationships. We've been pastoring at our church for almost four years now and sadly we've never received one invitation to one of our members home. I get the occasional phone call but usually it's when they need something. This hospitality thing is not something everyone embraces. Lifestyles these days are way more casual. It's too draining for us to be the initiators all the time. I've taken on a more relaxed approach to those kinds of things.
    xx Beca
    xx Beca

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  9. Nobody has people over for dinner anymore. People just all meet up in a restaurant. Nobody seems to want to go to the trouble. It's more work, but so much nicer at home. xo Deborah

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  10. Society is changing, and sometimes I think that so much of graciousness has been lost. Also, everyone has to work long hours just to make ends meet and don't have the time or energy to entertain. Most of our social gatherings are major events like weddings, graduations and retirement parties these days and we keep up with each other in between on social media. Even birthday and Christmas greetings are mostly electronic now. We just have to 'go with the flow' and accept these new changes, but I will never get used to hosting a dinner and having everyone's nose buried in their smart phones! It's a new world. Now I know how my parent's and grandparent's must have felt when the world was changing all around them. Hope you are enjoying these last golden days of October! Hugs and blessings xo Karen

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  11. Roxy, I enjoyed your letter and all the comments.

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  12. Hospitality is becoming a lost art. My MIL was such a gracious hostess. No one was ever turned away. Yet our fast paced society, with facebook, instagram, twitter etc... everyone seems to be on the fast track. We still invite people over for dinner but its not been a practice to be invited to someones home. When we have been invited, it often feels awkward and strained. Like people don't really know how to entertain anymore. My hubby is a fabulous cook, so he prepares meat and I fill in all the sides. I enjoy inviting people into our home. It's one of the best ways to get to know people.

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  13. After thinking about your post Roxy and reading some of your readers comments, I think the problem is that years ago people didn't have a chance to communicate with each other any way other than to come and visit each other face-to-face. Now all the visiting can be done with a click-of-a button and a slide of a finger and is way more easy to do and less investment of our time and that time is spent on other things that really aren't so fulfilling. Like you, I don't know what the answer is but I do feel the need to just concentrate on my family and taking care of them in the home for now.

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  14. So true. We were taught it was good to keep up relatives and friendships. We are finding they don't have time.

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    1. It is so sad, but very true Lydia! Why do we think someone we have only known for a short time, will ever really stay for the long haul!
      Family life and relationships are not given the honored position it should be! I think it may be seen so much more as families are so divided with distance and divorce.

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