One of the greatest gifts to give yourself and to your husband and family is this;
Learning to move with the ebb and flow of life...
There is a rhythm that life takes on with just doing and trusting;
No stress and a deep, abiding wholeness.
Most the time when life gets chaotic and stressful is when we are doing too much!
We all can do something each and everyday;
But taking on other person's responsibilities is just foolish
And not biblical at all!
Now, hear me out, we will all have small slots when much more may be required of us.
When sickness comes or a move or trials come;
I fully get that, we must help and pull a bit extra.
We need to help someone in a difficult situation, that is biblical too.
I am talking about others getting away with dumping all their responsibilities on you!
It most cases we live in the overflow of the chaos of the bad decisions of others!
This is called sowing what you reap...
Now, that is a biblical term, and we have all seen the fruit of this truth!
We allow so many to do only what they want and hold no one accountable.
Then we are expected to do our share and carry burdens and work;
That was not intended for us to do or carry
So when we do more than what God has asked of us all the time;
We get overloaded, and we become stressed and filled with anxiety.
We can become feeling a bit down and blue!
The rhythm and blues get out of sync in your life.
And on the other hand, we may be the ones not carrying our share or load;
And we are causing this undo stress on another;
No matter who is not doing their share, this will cause an undercurrent and pulls others under!
I will also add this little surmise, some can carry very heavy loads and it does not
This is what I mean by ebb and flow, we all need to learn this and adjust our days
And commitment to others as what will work and not break us down.
This is old fashion wisdom! And maybe what should be common sense.
"But as a nice person we may take on a false christian bear it all mentality"
We all need to learn these levels of commitment to helping others,
We have all heard terms like enabling or your really not helping them;
God just may be growing them and you are interfering with what God is teaching them!
And if you do too much that is what we really are doing;
Do not over commit, but do what you are suppose to do;
Just use wisdom and learn to say NO...
God has his way of training and maturing each of us;
So do not carry another burden that is theirs to carry,
You are not really helping!
We all must grow up and take responsibility for our lives!
We must always encourage them and lift them in prayer, but doing all the work
Is not really helping them at all!
Help others to have roots so they can stand the winds of adversity
Do not clip their wings!
Help them to soar and grow...
That is real teaching and disciplining and mentoring!
Not doing it for them...
Do you see yourself in this?